You are correct, the LD partner does not MAKE us do these things. We do them, it is the natural reaction to find something that pleases the LD spouse. We naturally bend over backward to try to boost their deisre for us. So we are not made to do anything, it just naturally happens. However, now that we have read PM, we now know that we must AVOID this. We must do what comes UNNATRUALLY, and that is to hold on to our own integrity no matter what the LD spouse does. Harder done then said.
