I agree with your premise about what happens but not with your first sentence: the LD partner MAKES the their spouse undesirable.
Look, my husband can't make me do anything. He'd prolly love it if he could. lol
I did this to myself. I accepted the crap and set up the lowest common denominator, from which he operates. Who can fault HIM? If your boss said, I will pay you X amount regardless of the amount of work you do, would you really be out there busting your tail every day?
I take the blame for allowing myself to become an undesirable partner. Plain and simple.
He did what any of us would have done in similar circumstances.
I can only hope that he is willing to step up to the plate and be a full performer again. Who knows!
