I do know one thing, though. It was obvious to me that I was suddenly more attractive in H's eyes when I was doing something for myself. This might be a key that I have been overlooking.
HP... I am so happy you had a nice nite. I know you are a straight player, and so am I, but somehow insisting on being desired has a reverse effect and to paraphrase NOPkins, "you need to find a way to put your needs on his list." I have found that my high desire has had a negative effect on H, and I could spend hrs speculating why this is so, try to talk to him about it, etc. and it won't have any effect. I would lose my integrity if I had to pretend that my desire is lower than it is, but I think that there are ways to get what I want when the direct approach fails, without feeling I am being manipulative or disingenuous. As I recall, Mojo seemed to spark her H by being a bit more selfish and "out there"; I just think men in general do respond to a bit of the chase, and we HD types sort of made it all too available to them. I would never purposely make my H jealous; it's just not in my character, but to go ahead and enjoy myself and not be so readily accountable every second is intriguing, and as I type this I see he does this to me. Anyway, I am off to visit my homesick daughter ( gone 2 weeks now) and can't wait to just hug her. Have a great weekend everyone, Journey
