Barney said:
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I agree with you. But I can't help but wonder if it's easier for you to see after having sex for 13 out of 14 days (or is it 16 out of 17 now)?
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We have been having routine sex for a while now. We still have arguments and experience other normal human behaviors :-)

In another post I wrote about how frequency, with a good attitude, even if the performance isn't akin to the 1812 overture, can "grease the skids" a bit. I had, however, addressed my anger and my shortcomings in her emotional needs department before all this transpired.

What you see here now is the result of a process over time. We did not get here easily or overnight. We worked hard at it just like everyone else here. I am unaware of any quick fixes for marital difficulties. I wish I knew a few tricks. All I can share here is observation based on my own experience and mistakes, both derived and actual.

To directly answer your question, I think it is easier for anyone to address personal issues when they are feeling particularly good about themselves :-)

I have been monitoring your progress. I know I am excited for you. I think everyone here is.

-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.