HP said:
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I thought of one more question. You mentioned that this time of our lives has much to do with his willingness to work on changing himself. I am wondering how long this phase lasted for you? At what age did you start to feel the job pressure lessen?
He is 37 now, btw.
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At about 47 when I begin to demand that the wife address the sex issue, in earnest. That is when I heard for the 100th time what I had been missing in her emotional needs department. I finally realized that I had contributed to the state of chaos. Well, DUH. You can go back and look at my early posts to see the levels of anger I was functioning at.

Even Michele told me to address the anger.

Hey, she owed me!!! How could she bait and switch like that!! It can't be my fault, I have given her everything!! All wrong.

We BOTH were at fault. That seems almost always to be the case.

So, wait for the new little one to get settled in. Then dig in until he gets it. Just try to do it in a better way than I did.

All the best,
-NOPkins-

I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.

-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect.
-An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.