I thought of one more question. You mentioned that this time of our lives has much to do with his willingness to work on changing himself. I am wondering how long this phase lasted for you? At what age did you start to feel the job pressure lessen? He is 37 now, btw.
I think that I could successfully force him into the growth cycle NOW but I wonder if that would be sadistic on my part. I am willing to live with the fantastic progress we have made--for the time being--as long as I know that at some point in the near future he would be willing to address my needs.
hearing "I will never do that and you can give up on it" was not my idea of him meeting me halfway the lousy nonpassionate son of a......oops. Gettin carried away again.
