I think that is what I am trying to do now is to move the pointer. We have been on course with the frequency thing for nearly two years (it will be two yrs next month). I am trying to decide if the desire thing is worth the struggle that it will take. When Tim said it may take years, I knew that he was speaking the truth. I do not know if I have the patience or energy to keep at it. Trust me, he is well used to the 'new' us and has now chosen to dig in his heels about being passionate.
However, you are right when you say that the third trimester of a pregnancy is a really stupid time to try to kick his heels out of that beloved hole.
I am also feeling a bit needy lately. The fatter I get the more I could use some reassurance from him. Not that I have to have it, but boy it would be nice. I still get looks from other men so I know that I am not a total sexless blob but really who cares...I want it from H. I know intellectually that he is not turned on by the pregnant form, but I still want him to find me attractive. Just because he won't deliver something doesn't mean that my need for it goes away.
Oh well, soon the baby will be here and sex will be out of the question and we'll both be too tired to care for a good 2 months or so. Then I get to start all this sh*t up again.
I could really use a drink right now. It will be a while on that front, though, between pg and BF'ing. (breastfeeding, HairDog, you IDIOT! )