HP said: ------------ Seriously where is a halfway point here? When we are doing foreplay and he is not speaking to me, kissing me, etc, but IS stroking me--is that halfway? Or do I insist on some form of further participation on his part and, if so, how much? ANYTHING more than what I just described is "demanding" according to him (told me this last night). ------------
It really is halfway. Think about this way. If he does it often enough (makes love, even if it is somewhat lackluster), then the feelings and emotional connection will become habit. That habit will give you a new reference point to work from.
Set an achievable goal, let it sink in and become a part of your relationship, then move the pointer a bit.
Also consider that like someone else pointed out, you are very pregnant, and you well know that emotions can be a bit stronger toward the end. I am not saying you are being unreasonable, but that hubby may very well be taking your requests less seriously right now.
So, I suggest you request a bit more attention from hubby, and let it ride for a while. He may not be riding up on a white horse to meet your needs, and he is probably selfish, but he is certainly not a lost cause. Enjoy the good parts right now, ignore the bad parts and let him get used to what he is doing. He sounds like a good guy to me. I think he will eventually, and I mean sooner rather than later, learn to meet your needs in an acceptable way.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
