Because I didn't let (this) marriage get as bad as some of the R's you all are in, I can't really brag that much. HOWEVER, I do wish to say that hearing just how long a SSM can go on without a lucky break made me really really scared. And that was a good thing.
I know myself pretty well. I can let resentment build up and hover for weeks or months or years. It is not a good thing. It will inevitably lead to me bailing out. I would NOT stay 4 years or 12 years in a sexless marriage. And my H wouldn't expect me to (thank god).
So, I really pushed myself to communicate and to change more in the past three weeks, as a result of reading what you all are posting. Just wanted to say thanks. Ultimately, you've helped save a relationship, because things are much better for us.
I wish I could help you all out, just as much. Dammit. Since I was once an LDW, and now, am NOT, let me say there's hope.
