Quote: Mike - wasted 20 years not standing up for myself and being angry
Me too. Only I wasted 28 years. It's only in the last month or so that I got to where Honey is now. It was so easy and comfortable for everything to be her fault. I've finally owned up to the fact that my letting her get away no sex whatsoever for the first 12 years of our M makes the problem as much my fault as hers. The C asked who was at fault and W said, "I think it's 50-50." To which the C responded, "Wrong. It's 100-100." That was 14 years ago, but I just got it last month. I also finally got the idea that I can't change her; I can only change myself and the way in which I respond to her in the hopes that she'll be inspired to change herself.
