Scott, I think he likes the foreplay itself but he hates the fact that he will inevitably fall asleep and then will get in trouble.
I will touch him during foreplay, say, 5 times out of ten but it usually ends with him then trying to completely rush sex (before I am ready, which PLEAAAAAAAAAASE takes me about 5 minutes!) so I refuse to do that every time. It does keep him awake though.
If he was just trying to rush sex because he was turned on, I suppose it would make me really horny but you have to understand my H is a clock watcher and it is all about "what time is it" to him.
The funny thing is that when he truly lets go...and allows himself to enjoy my naked body, he really loves it. He acts like he is discovering it for the very first time, and I would have to guess it is because he spends so much time focusing on the time and getting our genitals joined, instead of really relishing the process. The IRONY of it all is that this approach (get the genitals together asap so that we can be sleeping soon) actually makes sex take LONGER because it is not a turn on for me and, I suspect, for him either.
Last night, for example, took no time at all because he gave such good kisses before we even started. I knew he was not going to fall asleep and we both relaxed.
Btw, he is going to the doctor soon to have a lump on the back of his head checked out (it doesn't appear to be anything more than a cyst) but I will encourage him to ask his doc about the sleepiness.
Thanks for the well wishes; it's been hot-t-t-t around my house the last couple days!
