Actually, I think you've hit on something there that my H's therapist seems to have hit on as well...he thinks this is a control issue for my H. It's not that he's trying to control me, but trying to make sure I don't control him (pretty much what you said). Although he admits he doesn't believe I'm that type of a gal...that has been his experience in the past.
He actually really surprised me last night by doing something sooo out of character for him...I was so proud of him, but I didn't make a big deal out of it. My H is the type of a person who seems very self conscious about his body...I almost never see him nude...except when he's getting in/out of the shower, or the few times we've ML. Last night he about bowled me over when he trotted into the kitchen while I was cooking dinner, stark naked, and stood there talking to me. I thought it was great, it's something he's NEVER done...one more step forward in my mind :-)
