My H doesn't "need" a restorative period...there are plenty of times when we will have sex every day for weeks in a row. He wants it and feels that sex is better for him, if we do wait. I do try to respect that and not get pushy.
Lately he has REALLY been slacking off in terms of how much sex he wants. I have no idea if it is my figure or the stress or what. Or maybe a combination of both. I will just practice patience and hope for the best. He did ask me the other night if I was looking forward to not having a belly in my way while we are having sex. Duh!, of course I am.
And then there is the issue of stress: It is a confusing thing because on one hand, the stress really DOES affect his libido. On the other hand, the lack of sexual release makes him more stressed and, in turn, contributes to his feeling of being stressed out. Meaning, although he is resistant to the idea of sex because he's feeling overwhelmed, he almost ALWAYS feels tons better after we ML. So do I push because I "know better" what he needs, or do I let him just chill for a while in order to deal with the stress in the best way that he knows how? I am choosing the latter, with some "mama knows best" incidents thrown in for good measure.
