I had the LDH's T-levels (T1-T3, IIRC) checked last month. he's fine. Quite high, actually.
I've read a couple of times, now, in these boards about men needing a restorative period. Apparently, deeply satisfying sex is often a one time a week thing for men who get it regularly. For women, I read this somewhere, who are getting deeply satisfying sex, they want it more often. So maybe some of you HDH's would be wanting less sex if the sex you got was really cool. Anyway, my LDH says the sex he gets is fantastic, doesn't want any more.
There's a problem, obviously, if I don't have a deeply satisfying experience at the same time he does. Because then I'm all aroused and have to wait another week. And he can go 2-3-4-5 weeks between "deeply satisfying" sexual events and not miss it.
Therefore, he regards my hints/seductive behaviors as requests. After reading this thread (thanks so much all of you), I can now look back and see him calculating. He regards "extra" sex as energetic work, and he simply can't do it all that often. He is clearly turned on by my little attempts at seduction, but unless these are timed at least 5 days to a week apart, I will get NO response at all. It helps to realize that. I've started keeping a calendar and will make far less frequent attempts to sex him up, if you know what I mean. We'll both be happier and I won't feel so much rejection.
The last 24 hours (since I found this bb) have been such a relief. I'm super-emotional, though, because I'd been avoiding thinking about any of this, it was too weird and lonely. Honeypot, I so understand what you're trying to do - my Darling Husband is the greatest man, you couldn't ask for a more loving person, but now that I realize he's having sex with me half of the time or more because he thinks he has to, to make me "happy", I feel really bummed. I'll get over it. And bummed is better than resentful, which is where I was yesterday. Way better.
