LL, yes, I did see the post you made on motivations. I do spend an awful lot of time already, trying to figure out my motivations. I tend to be introspective to a fault, and being a psychology student makes me even more so. I agree, it's basically a good thing, because it has yielded a lot of self-insight, and gotten me in touch with "whys" of my conflict. I do know my motives... When I said "I barely know my own motives" what I meant is that my own motives are sometimes tricky enough to figure out, without also trying to do the same with H and OM!
My H said something interesting today, he said that people often have such trouble making decisions because they view them as "permanent," as if their fate will be sealed by whatever they decide to do next. He reminded me that decisions can always be reversed or at least revised. I told him I rarely think of life in those terms, and maybe trying to do that will help me get out of limbo. He said I either need to get OUT of limbo or get a lot more comfortable IN it. Yep, those are the only two sane choices.
