I don't want to point out your contradictions to you as I think it would be better if you could read through your most recent post paying special attention to what attracted you to each man. See if you notice how very contradictory they are.
I'll give you one small example
what you said about your husband
Quote: What won me was his utter conviction that he wanted me, his lack of conflict or hesitancy about that...
in regard to om
Quote: "It is seems obvious to both of us that he isn't going to leave his W"
He's not.
Quote: "but doesn't really sound like someone you could depend on."
Well, no, because he's not mine! But, he is a dependable guy... he is a "grown up", if that's what you mean. He has a dynamite "on fire" career, and is responsible. His W "depends on" him. if he's having an a behind her back how can she honestly depend on him, even if it's not behind her back...how can she depend on him. He has truly never cheated on her before me... I believe him, because he is so torn up about it, that he refused to ML with me in the beginning, when I wanted to. so the first time someone commits a crime they are exempt? Who ever heard of an A where the man refuses ML when given the option? If I am expected to believe my h in regard to his a there are at least two, your om and my h. actually not that it's relevant my h denies any pa at all. No, he is not perfectly moral (who is?) but he has integrity.
ok I'm going to be a real pain in the tucos right now...
Integrity 1 : firm adherence the simple fact that he's tormented by his actions doesn't count as he's still acting to a code of especially moral or artistic values : INCORRUPTIBILITY if he had true integrity he would not have been persueded by your advances 2 : an unimpaired condition : SOUNDNESS 3 : the quality or state of being complete or undivided I'd say if he's married to one woman but seeing another on the side he's neither complete nor undivided.
keep in mind I am NOT bashing you or judging you here (or om for that matter).
oh wait just incase you do miss it I will mention one other contradiction that screamed out to me...
re more sex with your h
Quote: See, my H is kinda shy, he does not like to pursue, and I while I am not hesitant to pursue on occassion, pretty much I like to be the one being pursued sexually, so there is another problem.
in regard to om you said
Quote: he has tried to end many times. I have been VERY persistent.
if this is only in the area of sex I appologize but it still says something to me.
