Quote: WOW, you people jump to a lot of conclusions and so far are a very judgemental lot!
for no other reason than they are hurting as a result of their spouses infidelity or leaving. Don't take it personally it's mere projection. (ok and some who just like to grasp onto any "concept" they read about)
I understand your plight but admit that there are an awful lot of contradictions in your posts.
I don't have time to point them out right now but they are there and many of them are things that may be keeping you in this "cruise control" state.
I know you are not impressed with the message board nor should you be. Michelle doens't write this stuff (and doesn't read much of it either)...the hurting often desperate folks who've read her books do. We don't hold degrees and haven't written any books we are just people who've walked (or are walking) a difficult path.
Sad to say that though your insights as a near waw and the betraying partner (sorry if those terms hurt but at least I wont call you the "whore" you called yourself in a post to another) will for the most part not be heard but instead invalidated (at least attmepted to by those same judgin conclusion drawing folks you mentioned).
Yes, you are right your feelings for om are very real...there is no switch you can flip and you will not suddenly "wake up" or return from the "alien ship" as so many like to call it. You are already awake and pleasantly with both feet right here on earth...you've just got to decide if your going to live completely one way or the other.
The limbo you currently reside in is of your own making, you are the only one who can leave it. It is not (nor should it be) up to h to sway your decision it should be YOUR decision.
There is a thread floating around (I believe in the new commers forum) called "calling all walkaways". It has been posted to by several was and there are some new commers with questions you may be able to help them with.
You mention having read db years ago, why not take another peak. You don't have to want to save your m to spend the few hours refreshing your memory on the book. It may also help you to make a decision one way or the other as well.
