I have read a few of your posts on the boards. So what is missing in your marriage that is making you have an online affair?
Is it communication? Does this person just seem to "understand" you? Would you drop everything you have in your current R just to go and find out if he is "the one?" That would be scary, huh?
If you answered yes to the above, then go and do it and find out what the guy is like in real life. I am not discounting your feelings, I am saying that when you have to deal with this person day to day, he might not be even close to what you think he is.
What is it that made you get married to your husband? Ever think that maybe you two could go to counseling or follow the DB procedures and make your relationship great?
It seems to me that you are on cruise control for a long time. S_ _T or get off the pot. Find out what you are missing one way or the other.
I would be willing to bet that if you left for the other, you would want to come back sometime down the line. Think about it, you have a guy who is patiently waiting for you, but you blame him for enabling you to keep up what you are doing. Take some personal responsiblity here. Maybe YOU are what is really dragging the R down and don't want to face that.
You obviously don't have the life experience to see that people like your H don't come along very often, and are willing to wait for the one they love, no matter how much pain and suffering they are going through. In his way, he IS fighting for you, not enabling you. Think about how you would react if he gave you an ultimatum to quit? Do you really think you would just do that and not have any negative feelings towards him?
I greatly admire your husband. I did the opposite of him, and now I am single. Glad of it, though I didn't know it at the time. Quite the opposite, I was in great pain.
