Oh yes, Bridget, how could I forget to dance? (glad to hear you drove out of the ditch)
Actually, I did dance last night, with lightning flashing through the skylights (and my elderly cat thinking I'd gone mad, but then I think she's mad so we can call it even. At times like that, I miss the pup. He liked to dance!).
It was just great. Prepared me for a whole new week.
Quote: Let's talk about guys and attention, shall we? I let someone new in last fall, and it's been really healing. He's healing, too. But I do have mixed feelings and it is playing with fire. How art thou in that arena?
This is something I've felt strongly about. Dating has not been on my radar screen. I turned the very idea away-- and the guys too.
I needed to heal myself. Let's face it, I've been here a long time. And no one's going to do that work for me. And... judging at least by the papers he handed me this spring, my H has decided that getting married is the one mistake he needs to fix in his life, that this is not worth the repair work for him. I cannot insist he revisit the idea. Even if I don't buy it. Been there, done that. I have to go on the assumption that he's a grown man, even when he doesn't act like one.
Letting people in will come. I'm open to it. Slowly. I'm still recovering, you know. But as a friend said to me recently-- the more you put yourself out there in the way you want to be, the more you're going to gain. (she was talking about my creative projects, not men, but I think similar rules apply).
I think I am ready to dance with fire. And all those other elements. Even if I am dancing by myself for a while. Or not.
Quote: how can he be in a new R when he never worked through the problems in his last one with you?? GOOD POINT, huh??
A very good point! Sure speaks to everything I read about the LBS being "happier" in the end than the one who WA looking for "happiness"... because we are willing (OK, let's admit it-- we are fairly well forced) to do the work. That's no coincidence in my book!
But as a friend said to me recently-- the more you put yourself out there in the way you want to be, the more you're going to gain. (she was talking about my creative projects, not men, but I think similar rules apply).
