Quote: And there is someone I have been intrigued by... though I may need to practice more handstands to break through more resistance and fear first (no, don't mean the yoga guy either).
In the mean time, what's up with those ingriguing fellows you mentioned? Any interesting tales you haven't shared? It's nice to have someone to daydream a little about, to know that our WAs haven't competely crushed our hearts (not for lack of their trying), just to feel a little stir of the faintest possibility or interest...
Quote: Maybe I should bring it up? You know, admit there is an elephant in the living room??
Sun, that's a tall order for the conflict avoiders... but a good one, IMO. I'm finding that it alleviates a lot of tension just to be upfront about things-- with ourselves, most importantly. Then we can do it more easily with others. I bet you're right that the GF is confusing things a bit. (I dare say they are confused enough to begin with...)
Quote: It's nice to have someone to daydream a little about, to know that our WAs haven't competely crushed our hearts (not for lack of their trying), just to feel a little stir of the faintest possibility or interest...
Azure, you said it, girl! No really good stories to tell yet... just exploring the mysterious possibilities and enjoying some new attention. But will keep you posted!
Your new musician friend sounds intriguing... maybe I need to find myself one of those email correspondents...
It's sure good to know it all still works and is not crushed beyond recognition (as you say, not for lack of trying).
Returning to the magic show now in progress, wonder
Hey Wonder ~ Hope you had a nice holiday weekend!!
I think you are right...I think the GF has confused H more than he ever was before. Like someone said to me...how can he be in a new R when he never worked through the problems in his last one with you?? GOOD POINT, huh??
As far as the potential male company...you go girl!!
Quote: Returning to the magic show now in progress, wonder
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
Oh yes, Bridget, how could I forget to dance? (glad to hear you drove out of the ditch)
Actually, I did dance last night, with lightning flashing through the skylights (and my elderly cat thinking I'd gone mad, but then I think she's mad so we can call it even. At times like that, I miss the pup. He liked to dance!).
It was just great. Prepared me for a whole new week.
Quote: Let's talk about guys and attention, shall we? I let someone new in last fall, and it's been really healing. He's healing, too. But I do have mixed feelings and it is playing with fire. How art thou in that arena?
This is something I've felt strongly about. Dating has not been on my radar screen. I turned the very idea away-- and the guys too.
I needed to heal myself. Let's face it, I've been here a long time. And no one's going to do that work for me. And... judging at least by the papers he handed me this spring, my H has decided that getting married is the one mistake he needs to fix in his life, that this is not worth the repair work for him. I cannot insist he revisit the idea. Even if I don't buy it. Been there, done that. I have to go on the assumption that he's a grown man, even when he doesn't act like one.
Letting people in will come. I'm open to it. Slowly. I'm still recovering, you know. But as a friend said to me recently-- the more you put yourself out there in the way you want to be, the more you're going to gain. (she was talking about my creative projects, not men, but I think similar rules apply).
I think I am ready to dance with fire. And all those other elements. Even if I am dancing by myself for a while. Or not.
Quote: how can he be in a new R when he never worked through the problems in his last one with you?? GOOD POINT, huh??
A very good point! Sure speaks to everything I read about the LBS being "happier" in the end than the one who WA looking for "happiness"... because we are willing (OK, let's admit it-- we are fairly well forced) to do the work. That's no coincidence in my book!
Quote: But as a friend said to me recently-- the more you put yourself out there in the way you want to be, the more you're going to gain.
Wonder,
How wise is your friend? Wow! Yes, this can be applied to almost anything. Put your all the way you want to into everything and anything and you will gain. What a concept!
Dancing huh? Was it an Irish jig? Or was it a good Polka? I love a good polka!
I am so with you on the decision to date or not. I may have thought about it from time to time, but no real effort has been put forth to make that thought become reality. I frankly, I really don't want to right now.
Cause I too am enjoying the solo dancing in the rain. (Lucky you, you get lightning, not much of that around here).
Triple J
Things were different then. All is different now. I tried to explain, somehow..........
Eddie Vedder (Pearl Jam)
Wonder ~ Dancing and playing with fire??! You go girl!!!!
No seriously...so far everything for me with the Separation, D,etc. seems to have happened when I was ready and not a second before. I guess I would call it fate or good karma.
I kind of feel that same way about dating...when the time comes I will know it and it won't happen a second sooner for me.
BTW, I think I am close to being ready!!
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
I never learned a proper Irish jig (nor could I master the step dancing), Triple J! So it was just free form dancing to Cuban music and a great energetic CD I bought at the yoga studio.
Sun, I'd call it excellent karma. You've earned it. I think many things have come to me well before I was ready for them. I've learned that I can decide when I am ready, that I can choose to make myself ready, that I can do many things other than react to the situation. Great lesson.
Azure, keep on dancing yourself! It's good for getting that positive energy flowing.
FYI all, I may not be posting much for a bit... but I'm alive out here!
