Quote: This cracks me up, Bets. What a crazy image this gave me! Almost a tribal sort of outfit! LOL
Me too!
Quote: If the goal is to re-establish a friendship, I would make sure to keep the message and tonality light and slightly funny (or extremely funny if it's appropriate) and warm.
Excellent point, Betsey. IMHO, for all communications with WAS, we need to have a clear idea of what our goal is, or it's easy to lose perspective. And I am not at all sure that re-establishing friendship is my immediate goal right now, where as others do know that's their goal. So Seattle, if you're still here with us, maybe thinking about what your goal is will help you decide how you choose to respond to these emails. You give me the advice that deep down, I know some of the answers... and so do you, my friend.
My goal is to consistently interact in an open, honest and positive way. I think that, for me, friendship is going to require some work on the other end at this point. And would require me to be honest in the way I've been lately rather than the old pattern of sweeping things under the rug or looking the other way. Anything else would feel fake to me, and to H as well, I suspect.
However, he hasn't responded to my last email, and it's been a couple of days. But then, I let him know that I was inviting his response/thoughts, not insisting on them. (long-term 180 for the IGoM).
