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Sheesh. I'm open to the idea that H could make a big change in his behavior toward me. And if I know what's acceptable and what's not, what's making me so uneasy?

Maybe it might be easier to accept that H is changing in a bunch of little ways ... as in each positive action he takes when interacting with you ... oh! wait a minute ... that sounds awfully familar ... why, we're back to "baby steps". Can't stray to far away from the basics, as I'm finding out.

All kidding aside ... is it really a big change for him or just a matter of timing. It seems he may have realized he's a little overdue in giving back some positive feedback to you. Maybe that will help ease the "uneasiness"?

IOW, maybe your uneasiness is linked to trying to read into "why" the change and having to address expectations around his reasons? If there is improvement in his interactions with you ... GREAT! ... accept them at face value and don't read anything more into them ... they simply may not have any deeper meaning ... and it is only another form of crazymaking to try to figure out if they're meant to lead to something more. End the crazymaking and the uneasiness will go away.

... and a belated welcome back from your trip last week. Sounds like you were able to recreate all the senses. ... and managed to find means of recreation for those senses without having to be on vacation.

... speaking of trips (shameless plug here) ... any chance of visiting the Hudson shorelines on the 17th of July? If so, check out Just for Fun forum.

'til later,
KAW