OK. After Seattle's welcome kick in the head, I'm going to start taking my own advice (and yours too, S).
That is, figure out what I want. Ask for it when appropriate. And make my boundaries out of something more solid than jello (remembering that they are about me, after all, not the person infringing on them).
Sheesh. I'm open to the idea that H could make a big change in his behavior toward me. And if I know what's acceptable and what's not, what's making me so uneasy?
Also need to remember to solve the real problem based on results I get... solution, not method!
Huh, guess this one might be me.
Or as that cainer fellow writes today:
Now you've squared a circle, you can set out to reconcile two mutually exclusive needs. There's a real feeling now of needing to do the impossible. The odd thing is, more or less, give or take, just about, you seem to be managing it. Really though, you could do with a break. After all you have been through lately, you don't want to wrestle with yet another tricky situation. But the cosmos has other ideas. It feels that you are "on a roll" and can work more magic before you get time to recover and recuperate. So don't resent the pressure you are under now, or the silly scenario you find yourself in. Just be brilliant. Again.
Starting to think this man lives in my house... maybe under the computer desk? Kidding!
