Quote: I decided that since I wasn't responsible for getting it there, it shouldn't be my responsibilty to remove it, so it stayed all those years.
Sheesh! What is it with these people? I actually did get tired of looking at it last fall and attempted to do something, but since he holds the title, was told that he needs to do it. So I gave him the forms I had to file for a new title (claims he lost his original)... all the man needs to do is write a check, put it in the mail and make a phone call. Done.
I have not even nagged... in fact, in three years, I have brought it up exactly 3 times. He brings it up more often.
My H left anything I didn't pack up for him here too, and just stopped contributing to any household bills/mortgage because it was putting a crimp in his lifestyle with OW to meet his legal financial responsibilities. I sometimes get the arrogant "doing you a favor" vibe too. Usually I call him on it because it's such BS... and he responds to that.
It really is fascinating to me how H's view of life is so different these days... like a teenager half the time. I can't imagine I'd have ever even dated someone who acted this way, never mind married them.
My C said something that struck me recently... that I can't expect to follow H's logic (something I do try to do)-- because if you pull apart H's "solutions" by looking at the result he gets, what they say is that he believes marrying me was the big mistake of his life, the one thing that he needs to reverse in order to live a happy life from here on in. This is the exact opposite of what H actually says about our marriage.
Looking at it this way was instructive for me. Because I know H doesn't feel that way. It helps me somehow to find some compassion for someone who is going around solving the wrong problems.
