I can really relate to what you are saying and yes, for me I experience the same thing you are. My husband and I are currently going through counseling (well actually he's the one attending, I'm supporting). Up until he agreed to go to counseling he had completely cut me off emotionally as well as physically. I won't go into the long drawn out story why...lets just chalk it up to he's been treated badly and didn't realize he was treating me the same way he had been treated, trying to make sure it never happened to him again.
Anyway...fortunately for me, my husband wants our marriage to stay together and he assures me now that he will get this problem worked out for us.
Regardless I know what it feels like to be shut out emotionally, and it SUCKS!!! Before my husband finally agreed to counseling I was just about out the door. I still loved him, but I had absolutely no way of knowing that he still loved me. I received nothing emotionally from him and the sex was non-existent. I found myself simply being horny...and then at that point it scared the hell out of me that I could understand how some people are unfaithful and go outside their marriages. I didn't do that,a but I now understand the mind-set. I was ready go jump a complete stranger just to get it out of my system. Sound familiar?
I even took care of myself on several occassions which I know works wonders for lots of people. Unfortunately for me I just got really resentful about it...I'm working on that right now. It certainly does seem, for me anyway, that the less you get sex the more you think about it and the more you want it...even if it wasn't one of your higher priorities in the past.
Sometimes you don't realize how important some things are to you until you don't have it anymore...that seems to apply to soooo many things doesn't it?
Question for you...does your husband want your marriage to work out? If so I'd definitely try to urge counseling of some type (if you aren't already going).
I wish you the best of luck...I'm here anytime you need to talk :-)
