My W also has a bad temper. I think she always had it, but it was just covered up until after we were married. Even now, it's almost always directed at the kids, not at me. But just the same, it does tend to kill anything resembling desire from me. When she blows up, I don't even want to be around her, much less ML. Uncontrolled anger is a real turn-off, regardless of where it's directed.
