Turning a Fragile R into a Strong M-

[mylittlehalo]

update on Halo's story, I think I should rename my thread to "Torture chamber with Halo"

Last time on "Torture chamber with Halo" we discussed the mixed signals Xh was sending to Halo, the hot and cold air that was coming from the Xh and the convenience of being in a R or the convenience of not being in a R.
So okay that was cute for about three minutes. LOL

I have gone pretty dark, I let Xh call me and like so many times before he is being very attentive. This is a plus but why does he show me the attention I want and deserve the most when I go dark and make him wonder?
Wiley said it best when he said

You're dealing with a guy who appears to living out two lifestyles, unsure of what he wants in the COMMITTMENT end of things.. You seem to know what you want, he doesn't, so, UNTIL HE FIGURES IT OUT, don't GIVE any more than you are GETTING, and pull back just a bit as you suggest.. When you continually GIVE to someone who is UNCERTAIN about what you are GIVING, STOP GIVING so much. As you've seen time and time again in your sitch, when things take on friction and you LET GO, a little, things seem to get better.

I think Xh is nervous because he cancelled plans we made for Friday and I made other plans in no time. I am sorry but I am not the type of person to just sit around and sulk because uncontrollable things come up. Saturday he comes to my house and takes me to an amusement park/restaurant style place on the bay for Lunch and a day in the sun. We really had a good time and again he throws a curve ball at me. bringing up the kid thing again and that "WE" need to find a place to live. BLAH BLAH BLAH.
I asked him where he saw his-self in 5 years and Yeah finally a rock solid answer... . We talked a little more about "our" future and I let the conversation turn to other things.
I am still dark and am thinking about the boundaries I want to enforce soon.

I hope all of you are well.