I have put way more into this R than I have gotten back. At first I thought it was just because he was scared the me I appeared to be was not actually the me I am. At this moment I have to disagree with my first impulse, I have given this man sufficient evidience and examples that the me I am is not going to change. At the end of our M I did not make Xh feel very loved or appreciated, the positive attention I have been giving him for the last several months is a form of my 180. The extra effort I have taken to make sure Xh feels appreciated and loved has backfired. I am giving everything I have to this R and I feel like I am not getting much in return. I have backed of for the last few days, Xh has noticed and is giving me tons of attention. Why does it take me backing off and going dark for him to give me the attention and love I deserve? I had dinner with a friend Tue night, it was nice. We chatted and had a delightful evening . Last night I had big plans to just relax at home and do nothing. I was soaking in the tub when Xh calls me he tells me that he was at my apartment, I told him that he would have to wait for a few minutes because I was in the tub and I needed to rinse the conditioner out of my hair etc. We talked and had a nice evening. It was a really nice surprise seeing him yesterday, I have had such a rough, stressful week at work. So WTF Saturday he tells me that we are "both" single, Monday he acts like nothing happened, Tuesday he tells me that he is ready to have a baby, he talks about starting our new life together, he wants to look for a place for us to live etc. Wednesday he stops by my apartment (it's not like it is just down the street: it takes about an hour to get from one place to another) and again he brings up the baby and what size apartment he wants us to get until we build "our" house. Am I the one that is crazy or is it him??? Anyone have any advise?
I'm still bathing in the sun and enjoying the tropical drinks, I am just applying lots of sunscreen. LOL
Halo
Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect.
It means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections.
. Last night I had big plans to just relax at home and do nothing. I was soaking in the tub when Xh calls me he tells me that he was at my apartment, I told him that he would have to wait for a few minutes because I was in the tub and I needed to rinse the conditioner out of my hair etc. We talked and had a nice evening. It was a really nice surprise seeing him yesterday, I have had such a rough, stressful week at work.
