Turning a Fragile R into a Strong M-

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Halo:

Good to find your new thread and sorry it took me so long to respond to you. You have definitely been better at keeping up with me lately.

It sounds like things are looking up overall, but we know the up and down routine. I happen to agree with the occassional check-in; my challenge is to make sure it is only done occassionally. Based on the reaction you get, you will know whether to retreat in DB mode or continue the growth process. I feel if you don't occassionally ask, you won't know exactly where you stand. But, doing without exerting pressure...that is the challenge.

Hang in there and continue what got you to this point. As far as your doubts, they are natural, especially after what you have been through. But, I am sure, at the end of the day, when you really think about what you want, you will come to the same answer you have all along...that you want to be together. But, if that changes, that is ok too. There is nothing that says that we cannot change our mind as we grow as people as well.

I found your dating comments interesting. It is one of the things I have been thinking about lately as I try to detach and let go of my situation. Don't know if my results will be the same, but I am getting more interested in trying to find out as my process with my W continues. Guess that is progress, right?

Take care and will keep in touch.

I vaguely remember you listing your IM address in a previous post somewhere. If you care to list it again, I would appreciate it, as there are sometimes that immediate feedback is helpful. Thanks in advance.