Maya - I didn't get any email from you! Can you send it again and I will be on the lookout for it? Did you include the "h" in my e-dress?
Thanks Ron and Randy for cheering me on. I hope it makes a difference, but it's hard to tell right now.
Journaling
Still fighting off the FFA (free-floating anxiety). Not a peep from H, not that I expected it considering that he's away and out of range. I wonder if GF was invited on this trip. Probably not, I think it's a guy thing. And that's a cheeseless tunnel, fer sure, to even wonder about it.
Azure, Sounds like you had a great weekend. You racked up a lot of points!
Still praying for you and your H, your BIL, and your dog. I'm taking my dog for grooming tomorrow - wash, dry, nail clipping, ear cleaning, teeth brushing, and a bandana. It is her first time. I hope she does well. She doesn't usually like getting a bath. But she's too much for me to handle; that's why I'm taking her to the pet store. H used to do it.
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Hey Azure ~ What a thoughtful and supportive email to H! You are doing such a great job at being his friend...I only hope to follow in your footsteps someday........
DEFINITE extra points...not only for going to the party, but also for not totally freaking out over the little boy who looked like H!!
You know, I'm feeling generous...extra points for this too!!
Quote: I wonder if GF was invited on this trip. Probably not, I think it's a guy thing. And that's a cheeseless tunnel, fer sure, to even wonder about it.
BIL and your dog are still in my prayers...........(((((AZURE)))))
Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder.... (thoreau)
I'm with you on the FFA--where can we send it? I was told to help my D6 (very anxious, pulling out her hair) to blow up a pretend balloon of pretty colors and fill it with hard things from the day and send it off....I don't know if it helps (the idea is to get them breathing more deeply and to at least surface the bad things) but the kids like the exercise. More Californiese, eh, not something I learned where I grew up .
Hugs, GBO
PS I don't know if you knew it at the time, but you *really* helped me clarify my thoughts on Friday, which was a day of huge FFA. Thank you!
Hi all,
Wonder , FFA is a little better today, THANKS, despite the fact that it’s our ANNIVERSARY. I'm really glad you liked my last email to H. ( Maya , thank you for your so-kind support and sensitivity on that). I’m mostly trying to ignore it, but have some plans to do some silly, distracting stuff later.
GBO , it really means a lot to me that I was of any help to you on Friday. Sometimes we can start to feel like we are no help to anybody when there isn’t much motion on our sitches. My heart goes out to your sweet kids and their anxiety about their dad.
Sun , thank you for the points. And extra points, no less. Thank you and NSN for your prayers. Rae Jean , your continued support is a blessing. (I visited Ron's thread & wasn't sure what I was supposed to see? Am I being thick?)
Hey, I am reading a great book!! This book has spoken to me more than all the others I have read lately. I recommend to anyone who has abandonment/rejection issues and who feels like they need support in emotionally separating from their spouse, and in realizing the value of yourself and potential growth available in this alone time.
It is called The Journey from Heartbreak to Connection , by Susan Anderson.
No word from H. He’s still away, as far as I know. I wonder if he remembers that it’s our anniversary?
A big hug to you today, Azure! (((((((((((((((((((((Azure)))))))))))))))))))))))) And yes, he remembers. I would bet you money on it (if I had some for gambling). He has his pain to deal with about this too. hope you do something extraordinary for yourself today! wonder
You are so strong, my friend. I'm thinking of you today. Hope you are doing well. How is your dog? My pup was the topic of discussion at the grooming place. And then when she was all done, she came out with a bandana. People kept saying, "Oh, look at that basset with that bandana." I just smiled. I love her so much. I hope your dog is okay.
Still praying for your H and your BIL. You are all in my prayers.
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(((((Azure))))) - I hope you managed to do something good for yourself today! You've got so much going on right now - and all I can do is send you hugs and good thoughts....
I'm back from Florida and most of the way through the book you recommended "Finding Your Own North Star" by Martha Beck. I'm really enjoying it (and Maya, I think you'd like it right now too if you haven't read it already). I haven't done all the exercises in it - I think I have to go back after I'm done and re-read it doing all the exercises.
I also finished the Carlson book "Short Cut through Therapy". I liked it, but more as a quick reminder, like a refresher course when I'm feeling slightly off. At times I felt it was a bit simplistic, but overall I think it's the type of book that each time you return to it, something you already read before suddenly hits you harder this time around. Does that make sense?
And now, you've recommended yet another book!!!! I haven't even gotten to the Harriet Lerner book yet... Yikes you read fast! But I must admit that I am getting to the stage where I think I need to back off from all the reading, and actually DO some things, some changes, make some decisions.... Though I really enjoy all the reading, and each book offers up some real gems - I'm getting to the stage where I've got a pocketful of gems and finding it hard to put them together into a beautiful necklace that shines in my everyday life.
And I must admit, that I read & read, and though I know it's not out there, deep, deep inside I sometimes feel I am still searching for that 'magic answer' to solve my sitch. No whacks, I am not searching for that magic answer and I know better than that, but just sometimes the little girl in me wishes I had a pair of those ruby slippers from Dorothy and I could go "home" w/ my man....
Azure, I truly hope you had a good day. And I agree w/ Wonder - H has not forgotten the day at all, but is dealing with it and his brother's disappearance in the best way he can. I also liked your email to him - he is very lucky to have you, your care, your love at this time.
You are doing such a great job at being his friend...I only hope to follow in your footsteps someday........
