Hi again, I posted to you a while back and then when I got round to coming on here again ( When H is out the way ) , your sitch had all changed.
I'm sorry you have had this change, whilst I was seperated from H I dreaded every visit in case he was to drop another bomb on me and tell me he had met someone else, I used top sit and work out what I would say and how I would handle it. Not sure if when reality it really happens wether you can follow your head instead of your emotions though.
I always planned that I would never let it affect what I was doing because I decided, FOR ME, that no matter what, I was going to be his friend with no expectations.
Because at the end of the day I had to face reality that we had BOTH messed up and I couldn't punish him for that.
I think when you decide to stay freinds because you want to, rather than it being a means to get them to return it becomes a little easier to stay friends. Think of H's return as a Cherry on top!!! you have the cake already though.
Now the cake. The cake is YOUR LIFE!!! its yours and it needs to be happy, yes you would like the cherry but for now you have the cake, eat and enjoy!!! ( See you got me doing anolgy now)
I think your H knows he still has his cherry, he knows he can put that cherry straight back on his cake whenever he so wants to, and you know what, its funny, but when we can have a cherry, by golly we are happy with just the cake!!! as long as the cherry is there we dont mind if we have it or not.
Azure, I think you need to be a bit more un available, mysterious, like your truly moving on without him. Let him wonder wether he has lost his cherry (ooops ) excuse that frase
Its so difficult. Im not sure if you have ever read this post I am going to link. I found it when I first came here, I cant even remeber where!! But I read it every day and night and it helped me so much, it dos the rounds on the BB ever now and then, but you do need to read it a few times, it kind of sinks in bit by bit.
, your sitch had all changed.
