I have kept up with your thread over in Newcomers for quite a while, though have seldom posted. Welcome!
I was struck by your mention of shame - many of us here ARE FIXERS and PERFECTIONISTS, I think, and therefore feel shame and irritation at our life not going to plan, sort of.
The work place analogy that you mentioned in your letter to H was also pertinent. Just weeks before the bomb dropped, I got a lovely letter from H while he was travelling for work, addressed to "My Wonderful Wife"! What do you make of that? This was just a letter, not an occasion where he was 'required' to be sentitmental either.
Ah well.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
