Azure, The letter was a little help I believe. However he didn't give you everything you need to hear. Just remember that communication is the key. If you keep those lines open you may get more info later.
Since he has opened up to you, I think you have cleared one huge hurdle. It is far better to talk to them than not have any contact.
It sounds like you have detached so much that you could move on without him if you wanted. I am afraid to get to that point. I think I am still in denial about the whole thing.
Keep DBing like you have. You are having some success.
