I understand your feelngs of frustration, and yes they do cause stress. I know where you're coming from...as do many others on here :-) My LDH and I had a son a year ago...and since that time I've had very little success getting back to my previous figure. I know that takes time, but fors some it takes longer than others. Anyway...that's not the point, I know what it's like to have issues with my body too...I've fought with my weight all my life. I thought that my LDH simply didn't find me attractive anymore...like you said I thought he didn't fancy me. He kept telling me that it wasn't me, but it's really hard to believe when you aren't shown any phsical attentnion isn't it? It's very possible he has things preoccupying his mind...that's generally the case with my LDH. That and the fact that he's pretty bad at communicating with me about sex. I've since learned that he thinks about it during the day with me, intends to come home and put the baby to bed early...then life intervenes and he never even communicates to me that he wanted to do that. Of course if he had told me that I would have done everything I could to make sure our son was asleep early. Instead he gets into doing what he needs to around the house and wears himself out so all he wants to do is sleep by the time we go to bed.
Your LD partner might have a problem discussing sex as my LDH does, but have you asked him if he thinks about it? Of course you may get the same answer I did for a long time which was, No. But it did finally come out with our therapist asking different questins, that yes, he does think about it...he just doesn't act on it in a timely manner...and the biggest mistake he's been making is not telling me he thinks of ML w/me.
