Maybe he is cake eating/fence sitting but the tone of his voice was not that of a happy person, more of a person stuck in his own trap.
Quote: I think the more OW pursues your H and the less you pursue H, the better.
We have been getting along much better and yesterday it was a little too much even for me. I do need to back off and not PURSUE H, just be his friend. Gave me money before he left, H hasn't done that since last summer either. I gave him some snacks to take along with him in his boat today and H even tried to fix our lawnmower before he left yesterday to go fishing. Hmmmm...usually he's in such a hurry to go and yesterday it was like he could care less. It was all of a sudden no big deal, this fishing thing.
My actions do speak "I have a life" and the acting as if is who I am now. The "I have a life" actions are what got me in trouble to begin with, I had too much of a life and not enough time for H. Didn't give him enough attention, affection so I have to watch this a little bit. H knows I'm very capable of having my own life and getting along without him.
In the last few months, my family has become really imporant to me, my two sons and spending time with them. They are my priority as is my H, but my H can't have things both ways forever. At some point H WILL have to choose whether he wants to or not.
