I'm glad that you are getting some family time this weekend. It will be good for all of you to leave home (and the OW) behind for a few days.
Have a great weekend. Catch a fish for me okay? We don't have any plans that I am aware of - not unusual for us as H hates pulling the boat in 4th traffic. But who know what will develop.
Have fun and catch you later.
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
Thanks for stopping by my thread. I really appreciate it. I've noticed that members don't post much on the weekends, especially holiday ones.
My H and you are both Geminis. When I was reading the Cainercast, the first time I read it with H in mind and I was hoping that it really related.
Now here you are on the other side of the spectrum, but the same sign nonetheless. I could see where it would relate to you.
I think we can read into these a LOT. This is SO much fun!!
Here's Gemini:
GEMINI (May 22 - June 22) Things ain't what they used to be, nor will they ever be that way again. Is this bad or good? It's neither; merely a fact to face and adapt to. You're seeing a new side to an old friend. A situation has already altered substantially and soon, the balance of power will shift further in your favour. That's comforting in one way, confusing in another. You liked the way you THOUGHT things were, even if you inwardly knew something was wrong. You are making sense of a subject that once had you baffled. You're better off for what you now know and soon, you'll be even better off for what you are about to discover.
Hugs, Mary
"God, help me keep my head up, my heart open, and know I'll always be guided along the path."
Thanks for posting this and isn't it amazing that you feel the horoscope is speaking directly to you, yet there are thousands of Gemini's who are reading the exact same words. Things that make you go hmmmmmmm.
Quote: You are making sense of a subject that once had you baffled.
I don't know how to put it into words but MLC is all making sense. I've read about it, thought about it, looked back over the last year, looked at where I've been, where H has been, all the things H has told me since the bomb and now the pieces are all fitting together. I know what I need to do.
Wish me luck and keep me in your prayers as I do all of you here.
When I wrote that I know what I need to do now, I meant that I need to continue on my path, my walk with the Lord, becoming more spiritual. Another door has been opened to me, I’m being allowed to see things that I didn’t see before without all the emotions this time. I've been revisiting the last year, feflecting, looking at things H did/said and seeing them differently now.
Saturday night H took off north to fish and I didn’t talk to him until this morning. Had S4 leave him a message Sunday night that we were going to local fireworks show and that we missed him. Other than that no contact from H.
Big fireworks show for our area was scheduled for Saturday but was rained out, rescheduled for last night. Since I’m on vacation this week took S to that show with my sis and her family. It was fabulous, I must admit I did miss H a bit. Seeing mostly families and it being just S and I. Just to be able to see the excitement of S and his face was worth the hassle of traffic jams afterwards.
When we got home which was late, H was asleep and I didn’t wake him.
Woke up this morning, took a shower and was drying my hair when H called. We talked a bit, H asked what prompted me to take son to fireworks and said I didn’t have to work today. H said you’re off, I said I’m on vacation all week. H said I never told him. I told him awhile back and the two days when H was at OW’s H ASKED me if was still taking vacation that week which I affirmed. I reminded H of that and he said he didn’t remember. I think those two days are lost in H’s memory, I really don’t think he remembers a lot of our conversations during that time.
Hung up H called back again asked me if I knew of someplace he could have his truck looked at, it’s leaking oil or transmission fluid which it’s been doing since Friday. I said I could talk to my brother and get it in there. H said well we’ll be short a vehicle are you going to take me to work and pick me up? I said we’ll work something out, I can borrow a vehicle from on of my family members. Hung up again.
H calls back for the third time, wants my brother’s number and I gave it to him. Said he was going to call there and I said ask brother if you can just trade vehicles, he can pick your truck up and take it to work with him and you can drive his truck. H said he didn’t feel comfortable asking my B.
At that point S got up and H wanted to talk to S. H was asking S if he wanted to play tonight, baseball. So I grabbed the other phone and called my brother about getting the truck in and trading vehicles and B said that would be fine, he could pick up H’s truck tonight.
So I get back on with H and tell him the plan and H said “thank you” and then we hung up. (positive) This is the same man who had truck problems two weeks ago and “blamed” me for not calling him to help him out. Spent two days at OW’s and from what I’m seeing/hearing now doesn’t recall much of it.
H’s other boat is sitting on OW’s lawn. H has had a number of calls this weekend and thinks he’ll be able to sell it quickly as he’s had a number of offers already. A few people are looking at it right after work which means he'll be at OW's, but he did tell S he would be home to play with him and since H hasn't seen him for a few days I think he'll be here.
I am being shown that H is using OW, she is letting H use her in the hopes of getting H to come back to her. OW is using H in the hopes of ending her pain, so that she won’t have to hit her rock bottom and deal with the loss of her H two years ago and deal with the fact that she got involved with another woman’s husband. She will and is doing anything to get him back and H will take what she has to offer when it suits his needs. H can’t have both of us, at some point he’s going to have decide and break it off with her completely.
I’m in the process of painting S’s room, have to tape it off and go get some supplies. Another change in the house. I want to eventually give it a whole new look, make it a place where H feels comfortable, feels at home. I started this last summer and then there was a long pause and now I’m back on track.
Hi Minnie! Painting should take today and tomorrow along with just doing things around the house and shopping. Thursay a friend and I are golfing, having a little outing. Friday take S to visit H's jobsite. I'm really just relaxing, maybe se a movie at some point.
Tuesday night H spent most of the evening with the guy purchasing H’s boat AT OW’s Well he wasn’t there the whole night, the guy wanted to take the boat out on the lake for a ride, once H got the boat out of the water and since he had it hooked up to his truck, guy wanted H to haul the boat to the his house. Which to me means, they stopped at OW’s to pick up guys car and headed to guys house and then H came home. H also had a copy of an email from a CJ who works with OW, some fishing info for this weekend. It was laying on the counter and asked H who "CJ" was and he told me, works with OW and liked to fish. The same CJ who we ran into a few weeks ago at a park, he was there is two girls and H, S and I were together. He's the one who looked tentative about approaching H as I was with him.
H did call on his way home though and said to me “called to let you know I haven’t forgotten about you guys” and then told me the above!
Yesterday I pained S’s room! S’s room was a bright blue and I had to prime it and then paint it. Yikes! My roller broke at one point..cheap thing. So I had to run out and buy a new one, if this one broke I was going to write a letter and get my money back! But the room is done and it looks really good..well okay good. Good enough until I paint it again.
H was working on his fishing stuff most of the evening which meant S was wanting to help me paint. I did give him a little job to do. At one point I went out to H and asked him if he had anything for S to do out there, with a little smile on my face. H said "no" with a look of horror.
Since I was alone most of the day had a lot of thoughts flying through my mind. I keep going back to when this all started and before H moved back home, opening Pandora’s box again. But, it doesn’t feel like Pandora’s box, it’s not as awful. All the emotions aren’t there, some are, but not all and they’re different. I don’t know if this is normal, but I can’t stop myself. Maybe I have to do this to shut the door and move on, another step in the process.
I've also been looking at the time since I met H and going back through our history, without all the emotion, as a vistor to our story. I'm getting a whole new perspective.
Interactions with H have been great, it's like there isn't an OW involved, "a past" we're just a family. At one point during the evening, H came into the house and called my name. I went to see what he wanted and he was walking towards me. Usually my H just says my name and it’s my clue that I go to him. While he was working on his boat, a person stopped and asked him if we wanted to sell our house? I said no they didn’t. H said yes, the man was looking for a house to buy for his son and he liked the location of our lot, cul de sac, lots of trees, large lot and quiet, yet close to the city. I said what did you tell him and H said no we’re not selling it.
When we were out to eat last Friday we were seated next a to a table with three older couples, older than us even! And when they got up to leave they complimented us on how well behaved our S was. H said he saw the man watching S most of the evening and smiling.
Son’s room is painted! Yippee!! I’m golfing with my friend P this afternoon and the sun is out and it’s going to be a fantastic day!
I meant to drop by and congratulate you on the HUG the other night - wooohooo! Yeah for you!
Nothing is ever to small to notice or appreciate in this DBing stuff - not in my book anyway. I think those small movements toward us are very telling - and you need to enjoy them.
So what is your son's room like now? I saw the cutest little boys room done on one of the decorating shows the other night - makes me want to do one of my guys like it - but since I just did theirs - no way!
I do have to do the two bathrooms still, but the rest of the place is done. Still haven't done the floors but H is finishing up the new sliding glass door - had to finish mudding the sheetrock. He is out buying the new trim right now.
Yeah for that boat being gone and yeah for your H coming home afterwards. Maybe soon all the ties will be broken? One can only hope! I am praying this is the case for you.
Enjoy your last day of vacation from work! Hope your golf outing was great today too!
May be around tomorrow, but going to a MLB game tomorrow night....
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
