On my way home from work yesterday I call H to see if he could pick up S I wanted to go and hit some golf balls.
H was on the lake in his boat, hadn’t worked all day. He had an eye appointment the night before and he couldn’t see out of one of his eyes, it was blurry. So he didn’t go into work.
Since he was out on the boat and it was such a nice day I asked him of S and I could join him. So we did, it was great!! We went to a restaurant on the lake for dinner, H was very subdued and quiet. We really had a great time. At one point I asked him when our other boat was going to be done as H had mentioned it should be soon. H said it’s in the works or something like that.
We boated around for awhile, we get home there are two message on answering machine one from a friend of mine the other from a call asking about the boat for sale and that he doesn’t live too far from where the boat is for sale!! YES!! H wasn’t home yet, even though we had left the boat launch before him. When I heard the message I tried my hardest to not ASSume it was at OW’s! H arrives comes in the house is on his cell talking to someone about the boat for sale.
I asked him where’s the boat? H tells me at OW’s. This moron puts our boat on OW’s lawn to sell it because “she was nice enough to let him.” I asked him when he took there, H said last night. I said so after your eye appointment you take the boat to OW’s and then go to the bar. Did she ride with you there I ask? H said no. I said did you invite her to the bar? H said no, she just showed up there. I asked why and H said I don’t know why don’t you call her.
I brought up last week when H ended up there two days and it was like he didn’t remember or didn’t want to remember any of our conversation. His truck was fixed in less than three hours and he kept telling me he didn’t know when it was going to be done. I asked him how he got to our house, SS brought him to our house and then I asked if OW picked him up here and he said no. I’m not going to rehash last week, but the guy is insane or losing his mind.
Our whole conversation was a lie that made me nuts and I WASTED my energy, yes I’m finally seeing the light.
H was backing his boat into the garage last night, I asked him if he needed help and he said “no OW will help” like the smarta** that he is, and then I said I’m sure she would have bought the boat for you and he said I know she would have. That’s why I bought it myself, it would just be a reason for her to get me back there. So OW is trying to get H to move back there. I then said she’d do anything to break up a marriage.
We’re going away tonight for one night. Last night H said to me in the bathroom that I should be sure and be here by 4. I said I will and then I said what if you have to work late. H said well that could happen, but “I’d rather you be waiting on me then me be waiting on you” selfishly. I said “me, me, me” and he said well that’s just the way it is..the man’s insane. I’m sorry to keep saying that, he’s in major ME mode. I then said that I was leaving early and he completely changed his mood to “why are you leaving early, Are you golfing” I just said I’ll be here H.
Yes we’re going away for the weekend. How can H live this double life and think everything’s okay. That he can put his boat for sale at OW’s and she’s not going to perceive it as something different, that’s she’s being nice to get H back there.
My H is a selfish, selfish person and using OW, IMHO. She doesn’t see it that way I’m sure, H knows she’s trying to get him to move back there and takes advantage of OW “kindness.” Oh my H has a hand in this, too. Loves it that she takes care of him, drives him home from the bar.
My Patience is wearing thin these days. I have detached to a new level, I’m seeing a lot more lately, that H is a teenage right now. I can see what’s going to happen down the road, the bomb that’s going to go off. OW is going to keep pushing H to move back with her. She’s getting crumbs right now, even though H says he doesn’t want to be with “me” the he wants to get away from me his actions are saying different. OW is sitting by herself while he’s away with his family, his wife. I can see what’s going to happen if H keeps us his craziness. It really does seem like things are getting worse with H or maybe it’s just that’s he’s answering my questions about OW and I’m finally seeing the craziness whereas I usually don’t ask about any of his other “activities."
I'm getting to the point where I really don't care that much about H, either he comes out of his fog or he doesn't. If I'm here when he does, well that remains to be seen
