I think I'll post an update, just so it's on the record here for future reference.
Monday was the golf outing had a great day! H took son to t-ball, it was our turn to bring treats. H took the treats, made dinner for son and I got home late evening. Chatted a bit with H and then we all went to bed.
Tuesday H called me for something, don't remember what oh to see if I had made reservations for Friday night, which I did Got home, H had ants in his pants!! Couldn't sit still, mowed the lawn, reminded him that we were going to pick up dresser that I had asked him earlier in the day for his assistance with, actually the day before, too. H said "oh yeah I forgot about that" went with me to pick up a new dresser. Helped him move the old dresser out and the new dresser in. At one point we were laying the old mirror against a wall in the dining room. H thought we should put something against it and I didn't agree and H exploded. Accussed me of not caring about the walls, the house or anything. I just kind of stood there and didn't say a lot either. Deep down maybe I don't care about it as much as H does. H keeps very good care of his STUFF, but doesn't really do a lot inside the house. He likes to point things out to me that need to be done, but that's about it. After his little explosion things calmed down and I got strong and determined. We finished moving the furniture and H was more "calm" and caring after that. We then went out for a burger, came home and went to bed.
No contact from H at all yesterday. H was a no show last night. Driving into work this morning I see his truck parked at the bar, the only vehicle there...same ole same ole. H works on the other side of town from the bar, OW lives on other side of town from the bar...a good half hour to 45 minute drive so I'm sure she taxied H back to her house.
No call, nothing from H today so far. I did sleep very well last night no anxiety or fear. I mean really what can I do about H at this point...absolutelyfreakingnothing! I've wasted too much of my energy and time on the worry and the fear.