I understand where KAW was coming from, but only you can determine when enough is enough.
Had I listened to the well-intentioned advise of others, I would have moved on without my H and lost out on the opportunity for this R I have with him now.
Maybe your H is approaching his rock bottom. Because you are so close to the situation, you are bound to get some bumps and bruises along the way. However, it is still his journey. He needs to hit the bottom before he can start his ascension toward the top again.
You amaze me with you patience and resolve. You put a lot of side comments in your posts. Do you every verbalize these thoughts to him?
I mean, can it be said without sounding sarcastic or blaming? - just a statement of fact? At times it seems like you do - like saying I am sorry you feel that way - when he said he couldn't live with you any more.
The question I would put to him should he say that again is "I really think it is you that you can't live with any more. I love unconditionally and I want to see you happy and healthy. I will be here to help you do that when you are ready."
Would that work? Just a thought.
I think turning things back to him, letting him take responsibility for his actions might help him wake up and smell the coffee. YOu are in no way to blame for his behavior.
You are right to live a life for yourself. You can support his choosen lifestyle, but you don't have to join him in living it. Loving detachment at its finest huh?
Hang in there. Your resolve is something to be admired.
BTW, my skating rink always has a welcome sign on it!
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"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
