Cathy, You talked about H being all of these people... wasn't there something in HB posts, maybe the stages of MLC that talked about them being several different people? Maybe you should dust that off and reread it.
Your H is in such turmoil, I don't see you adding to it by an ultimatum, IMHO. Course, I am a chicken. But, you did say, you have nurtured the gift of forethought, so think it out. If you don't think the time is right, it is not.
Maybe these outbursts, which are coming less frequently, are his horrible, nasty way of sharing his frustration with you. Maybe he is not able to put words to his thoughts.
Maybe you should journal what he is doing, the timing, etc. Or maybe you should just keep your mind on Cathy.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
