hmmmmm, I'm still thinking Dawn. I'm thinking that my H would only turn to someone as a "port in a storm" when the storm reached such a fury that it caused a huge amount of emotional pain....which means she needs to keep building up! hmmmmmmm.....I guess I need to drop the rope so that things have a chance to build to the breaking point between them. I swear, they have had more and bigger fights and nastier ones in the 8 months since I found out about the A than we've had in 25 years of marriage. I don't know if that 's good or bad.....except that H hates conflict, so maybe it's good, very good in fact....
