Hi Debra...it's always so good to hear from you....I appreciate your input. It hadnt occurred to me that I've actually reversed roles w/OW....that's interesting to me. I guess if it worked for her once, maybe it can work for me soon. I totally agree about her being fully aware of what she was getting into. She KNEW H was married with children......H has said how she hates men because she's had such awful experiences with them, but that she brings it on herself because she is always so angry and upset....H said she gets mad when "you say one word wrong and you don't know what you've said"....of course then she tweaks her finger and wiggles her butt and he's back to calling her at the least....I asked him why the night I found the pictures from last fall, and he said "I don't know, I guess I love her, I've never met anyone like her before"....It is just all so weird.
Yes, he has to realize where his committments need to lie, and to see her manipulations, but I don't know what will ever get him to that point. Sometimes I think he's getting there--or gotten there---and then something happens that makes it seem like we are back to square one.
I keep thinking "what could I do better/differently" and I really can't come up with much. I believe my options are to keep on trying to focus on making things better/great at home or to give up and pitch his hiney out or give him an ultimatum. I hate to go to the last one right now because she's evidently done that.
I'm blithering here, had kind of a rough evening and morning, I'll post about that later.
I'm so glad you have your trip coming up....It sounds wonderful, like it will be just what the Dr. ordered. Heaven knows you deserve it!!!!!!Enjoy, enjoy, enjoy! oh, did I say "have fun"?
