Hi Debra, Wow, I didnt know that about your FIL, that is really something. Sad is so many ways, isnt it? I don't think my H fully comprehends how completely he will lose his family if he goes w/OW. I don't know, he is so screwed up right now. I believe more and more as I mull over the things he told me a month ago now that what keeps him from letting go as much as anything is guilt, although she also has some kind of weird fascination for him.... I sure don't want to move, but I would do it if that's what it takes; I know one writer actually suggests that as a way to get past an affair....I think hendrix is his name. I just can't comprehend the enormity of such a move very easily, but people do it all the time. H would die before he would talk to the HR dept. about it; however, I know that they know, as does all the administrative team, because the director is my supervisor and I confided in her when I first found out about the A....I called our EAP and they suggested I should....I've never told H I "spilled the beans", but I have told him I'm sure more people at work know than what he thinks. Anyway, "they", being human resources and Exec. Dir. did move H's office last spring from the end of a very isolated hall way, where I know OW used to sneak in and spend all kinds of time with him, to a very visible and public area just outside of the reception desk......there is no way OW can get in there now without being seen and heard. H has made comments about people getting in trouble for not being at their desks, and the receptionists "ratting" on people to get them on trouble....so I believe OW must have gotten in hot water for "stuff"....H wouldnt know this otherwise...company policy has been everyone has to be here on Tuesdays for staffings and the director doesnt want to pay mileage for 1/2 day over there, but staffings are going to be discontinued I understand, and if it was a bargaining chip over losing H, I wonder if they might go with it. Plus he has his new supervisor coming on, who may be able to help swing it....even not being in this office would be a help......sigh....I wish....maybe it will work out.
