Well Deb, it seems obvious that she is making your H soooo uncomfortable that all he wants to do is run. Too bad he cant just tell her NOOOO in certainty and let her deal with it. Just a thought.... have either or or your H thought of going to your human resource dept and seeing if there is anything they can do to aleviate the situation or is he too private? My H's HR dept. had to get involved and they handled it very well. Maybe they could help facilitate the transfer to the other office you mentioned in your earlier post. Would that help? IF not, then I think it is good that you are open to a move. I liked the post from Shay's thread. That is what basically happened in my sitch, only H needed to stay with OW just a little longer to get the full picture, but the pull of our sons was just too much. In the long run, it took us longer for him to get over the fantasy because he had only had glimpses of what life would have been like with her but he did finally get it. I am so grateful he was able to over look his own pride and come back to me and trust that I wouldnt hang it over his head the rest of our lives instead of staying with her and only hurting one of us. I dont know if I have told you but my FIL did just that. He left my MIL the week after H and I got married for a co-worker OW (also postal workers, that place is a breeding ground for infidelity) came back awhile later and wanted to come home, she said no not now and he went back to OW and "Settled" for her as he did not want to hurt her as well and be a jerk twice. That was 27 years ago and he and MIL are still married but he has lived with OW since then. MIL wants him to file and he wont. She wants him to take responsibility and he wont. It is a mess. He still calls her and cries. He lost his kids over all of this as well. My H hasnt talked to him for over 10 years for lots of reasons.
