Yesterday I reread the MLC chapter of DR.....I'm convinced that's a huge part of what's going on w/H, and it really reinforced to me how important it is that I stay backed off and just let him "go" right now. this is still so hard for me to do.
I keep reminding myself that I get much more postive results from focusing my energy and powers on making things great at home and between us than I do from "stewing" and obssessing about OW/them.........he really does seem to respond well to those efforts, and responds very negatively to anything relating to "OW"....but I think she somehow picks up signals about his "contentment" at home, and that seems to drive her wild and precipitate her going pretty ballistic, so, hmmmmmm, maybe getting all the "good stuff" in there I can is a very effective weapon in this war....a sharp double-edged sword.
