Hi Deb. Good to see you back. Regarding the ring. Maybe it is as simple as this. He had not worn the ring for over a year. He got into the habit of not wearing it. He takes it off and then maybe has to "see" it to remind him to put it back on. He needs to get into the new habit of always wearing it again. He will. The cabin issue. I too avoided all the "places" they had been that had once been ours. In time it wont hurt so bad. You will make more memories to overide the bad ones with her involved and soon you wont even think about her being there at all. It will your place again. This just takes time and avoiding these places will only add to your H's guilt. the funeral deal is hard. Until you are 100% sure he is done with her (sure sounds like he is on his way and if he can get the job situation changed that will be a huge step) you will question things like this and the long runs and calling cards. You can either let them all go and wait it out or just be honest with him and ask direct questions that can be answered and allow you to move forward. Talk to him about this. Ask him if I have questions about a behavior you have or something that seems slighty off, should I just come out and ask you or do you have another suggestion as to how I can handle my doubts so that I do not come across as your "mother" or keeper". See what he thinks. My H wanted the questions asked and answered so that I did not continue to dwell and let things bother me for longer than they needed to. You sound good. You are doing fine. Keep up the hard work and have faith in your belief that the two of you belong together.
