What? me with my obsessive tendancies? pry my sticky fingers off the rope? surely you can't mean that! LOL!!!! of course you are exactly right....I have such a hard time letting go an keeping my hands off, though....I think the ring thing is kind of a "whistling in the dark" way to reassure myself......I keep telling myself it's one of those "big" actions that speaks louder than words, but you are right that I need to accept it and move on. keeping my mouth shut about it is some progress, though I think. I get to a point where I'm pretty backed off and detached, and then H does something that causes me to let myself get drawn back in, then I get my expectations up, then I get anxious.....which I tend to be anyway (bet you hadnt guessed that, haha!)then I slip up and do something not so great in db terms....I guess recognizing the cycle is a step in the right direction!
Over lunch I was really anxious about the funeral deal....I just have to let it go.
you're also right about the vacation spot....I refuse to stay in that cabin again, although I hate to give the place up entirely, we've had a membership there for 15 years, taken our children & their cousins there for all those years, and it's really been a refuge for us.....we have many good memories as a family and a couple there, and I guess in a way I feel like giving all that up is letting her win......but there are lots of other cabins, some literally miles away from the one we stayed in. Of course the hiking trails are always the same.....
