Your friends here have missed you, that's for sure. I am glad to hear that the trip was more "up" than "down." I am glad that you didn't let OW spoil it for you too badly with the whole same cabin issue. Way to db.
Things have taken a turn for the way better in my sitch. They started getting better about 3 weeks ago when H went to C w/me and we re-discovered how to talk to each other.
He left for Brazil (OW - land) on June 20th after telling me that he was going to put closure to his sitch w/ OW That same day our boys left for camp and I went to San Diego for 4 days, but I went dark on H and didn't tell him where I would be.
I started to get kind of freaked out with him after 5 days or so of being in Brazil because he was clearly still w/OW. At one pt in time I actually came out and asked him if he was still shacking up w/ her and he said yes. I got ticked off and said "well why don't you call me when you're not any more" then I hung up with him. I decided afterwards that was old-Pam behavior (ie. not dealing with conflict, but avoiding it) so I called him back and told him that it would be nice if his words and actions matched up.
All this past weekend I didn't talk to H and just felt sort of tired and mopey, really drained and worn out.
Lo and behold Monday night H calls in tears He and OW spent the weekend in Rio de Janiero where they had gone at the start of their A back in Feb 2003. Stayed at the same posh hotel ate at the same fancy places. H said he knew before he went that it would be their last time together. Evidently in the plane on the way back from Rio OW wanted to read some e-mail on H's laptop that was an old one from me. H wouldn't let her and they got into a honkin fight. Once they got back to their apt OW took off.
To make a really long story short they are now seemingly not together or at least in a big fight. H said he sees that she is not the real thing, that I am. That she proclaimed to believe God, but shows no evidence of it. That only a woman who truly loved him would have stood by him through all his crap.
I have a new thread in piecing called In the fullness of time... but I haven't successfully masted the linking thing yet. Please come visit me love ya, Pam
He and OW spent the weekend in Rio de Janiero where they had gone at the start of their A back in Feb 2003. Stayed at the same posh hotel ate at the same fancy places. H said he knew before he went that it would be their last time together. Evidently in the plane on the way back from Rio OW wanted to read some e-mail on H's laptop that was an old one from me. H wouldn't let her and they got into a honkin fight. Once they got back to their apt OW took off. 
