Have you read DB or The Divorce Remedy? Step 1 is to stop the chase. I think the next step is to do a 180 and work on yourself.
There's been a lot of angst here about your staying in the same cabin (and I'm totally with you about that)--so what if you take your own vacation, without H? Would this be an action opposite what he'd expect? It would give you time for you to work on making yourself the best you possible, and it would shake him up a little bit.
Help him pack to stay in the cabin for two weeks on his own and ship him off. You go a different direction.
