I am sorry to hear about this turn of events. I think that OW was bound and determined to make this a messy vacation for you. The shame of it is that your H allowed this to happen.
I think that you have gotten some great advice here. I especially like what Debra said about YOU being the prize and to start acting like it. Deb, if I were you I would memorize those words and start repeating them to myself at each and every encounter with your H. And the key here is to START ACTING LIKE THE PRIZE.
I agree that it is time to set some boundries. Be very sure what they are. Write them down if you need to. And then be consistent. Do you want him calling OW from your home? Do you want OW paraphanaila (sp?) in your home? Do you want son to be around OW?
I think that you can lay it out for him in a kind and loving manner. But you have to be prepared for the consequences. Personally, I think that you are ready Deb. I also think that you would be doing him a huge favor. He has been acting like an ass for way too long now and no one seems to ever stand up to him and tell him so.
And if you rent a car....rent one for him and send him packing....you and your son deserve a break from him and all his drama.
